Dear Bob ... I just spent two hours with a new manager who reports to me. We're in the process of relocating him, and already agreed that if things don't work out in the first year we'll move him back. Pleading personal reasons, he now wants us to guarantee relocation costs for a longer period of time. I didn't want to damage my relationship with a new member of my team, but really, I wanted to tell him no and s Dear Bob …I just spent two hours with a new manager who reports to me.We’re in the process of relocating him, and already agreed that if things don’t work out in the first year we’ll move him back. Pleading personal reasons, he now wants us to guarantee relocation costs for a longer period of time. I didn’t want to damage my relationship with a new member of my team, but really, I wanted to tell him no and suggest he be grateful we stretched our guidelines as far as we had.How do you think I should have handled this?– Frustrated Dear Frustrated …I think you should have said, “I’m sorry to hear that your personal situation is difficult. But as you know, we’ve already stretched our guidelines as far as we can. And I’m a bit disappointed that after we finished negotiating and you signed the employment letter, we still don’t seem to be finished. We can spend another five minutes on the subject or another hour, and the answer will be the same: This is what we agreed to, I expect you to hold to your part of the agreement, and we have a lot to accomplish over the coming year. We need to focus on that.”However you decide to handle it, make sure it stops being an issue before you relocate him. It isn’t hard to envision this getting to a place where you have to draw the line. And you sure don’t want the expense of moving him back before the first year runs out.– Bob Technology Industry